Just a place for my various ramblings. This started off as a blog when I shockingly discovered I was pregnant with my fourth child. It then moved onto be an outlet as I lost both of my parents.
11/12/2011
It could always be worse......
That is true, it could always be worse. However, that does not make what someone is going through at the moment insignificant. Many people don't realize that by just uttering that phrase you could make someone who is going through something tough feel worse. Why are we not allowed to moan, complain, cry, get angry, etc about our problems? Yes there are worse things, yes there are people worse off, but that does not make our problems go away. So the next time someone you know is going through something, don't automatically say that phrase. Sometimes people just need to know that you care no matter how trivial you feel their problem is.
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Amen. I think this is such a stupid phrase. Of course things could always be worse... I think we know that. We don't need a reminder. I think some people say this when they don't know what else to say. Sometimes a hug means more than words.
Followed closely by "God knows what is best..."
Ugh. There is a difference between being a CONSTANT complainer about EVERYTHING (in which case I think it's appropriate to point out that things are not that bad, so shut up and be thankful), and going through something that is hard to you, whether or not someone else is going through something worse.
I always remind people that if you haven't GONE through something worse, then whatever you're going through IS the worst, and should be shown an appropriate measure of compassion.
How about instead of reminding someone that it could be worse, ask them if there's something you could do to make it better. There's a novel idea. @@
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